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Control

The most dangerous knife is a dull one, because it is so difficult to control. Brute force without control is worse than useless -- it is destructive.

With power, comes the obligation to exercise control. Your actions are very powerful, particularly when viewed in the aggregate over a long period of time. The "little things" you do, day after day, add up to have a big influence on your world. Your thoughts are powerful as well. Everything you do, starts as a thought.

To wisely use the power of your thoughts and actions, you must exercise deliberate control. The power of your thoughts and actions, is already there. Your job is to control and direct that power. Without that control, you work against yourself. With focused control, you can achieve incredible fulfillment.

Love n Marriage

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"

The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.

But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.

Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.

Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.

So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him, "...this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person...."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.

The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... This is marriage."*

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You can do it

The biggest obstacle standing between you and anything you want, is your lack of belief that you can have it. Once you truly believe it is possible, once you can see yourself doing it or being it or having it, the rest is just details. With belief, plus the commitment to follow through and do whatever it takes, anything can be yours.

What is it that you truly want to do? You can do it. Realize that you are as capable as any person. See yourself doing it. Touch it. Hear it. Taste it. Walk inside of it. Drive around in it. Believe in it and believe that it is yours.

Everything you need to get there is available to you, when you believe and when you commit to getting there. Know that you can do it. Nothing can hold you back once you have belief and commitment. You will find a way.

What will it take?

What will it take to get where you really want to go? To have the things you really want to have? To be the person you really want to be?

What will it take?

It will take work. Hard work. Late nights. Frustration. Sacrifice. Discipline. Effort. Disappointment. Discomfort. It will take your total commitment. It will take the best that you have to give.

If you think that sounds tough, consider the alternative. Regret. Wondering what you could have done if only you had given it your best shot. The waste of a life half lived, and you can't go back.

So the choice is up to you: an easy path with a heartbreaking destination, or a challenging path with a destination of fulfillment and joy.

Any way you cut it, life is difficult. But is that really so bad? It is in the challenges that we grow. It is in overcoming the difficulties that we find our greatest accomplishments. Face life head-on, deal with the challenges as they come. Accept that life is difficult, quit wishing or pretending that it is easy, and you will then be free to live with joy and purpose and fulfillment.

You are MORE

You are more than the body you live in. You are more than the car you drive. You are more than the title on your business card. You are more than your past. You are more than your daily routine.

You are everything that you dare to imagine, filled with possibility. Your only limits are the ones you place on yourself. Think of the things you can do, the places you can go, the person you can be.

You are capable of greatness, of joy. You can love and laugh, create and build, think and choose, learn and grow, dream and accomplish. Now is the time to live your possibilities. Imagine how it could be, and go for it.

God Bless You

Happy Birthday to You I Crave

The wife and the window

A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hang the wash outside.

That laundry is not very clean, she said, she doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.

Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: "Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this."

The husband said: "I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows!"

And so it is with life:
"What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look. Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to be looking for something in the person we are about to judge."

Do the groundwork

The mighty tree grows from a seed in two directions. Before it grows upward to the sky, it sends shoots down into the ground, its roots. The roots anchor and nourish the tree, so it can then grow to be tall and magnificent.

For every tree that reaches high into the sky, there are firm roots -- unseen, yet absolutely critical. Without the roots, the tree would topple, or it would wither from lack of water and nourishment.

When we look at a person of accomplishment and success, we often see the tree, but not the roots. Success looks so easy in others, because we fail to see all the hard work and preparation that went into laying the foundation -- the roots -- for their success.

Lasting accomplishment is possible only when you have first built a solid foundation of discipline and preparation.

Alphabets of Happiness

A--Accept

Accept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.

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B--Break Away

Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.

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C--Create

Create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.

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D--Decide

Decide that you'll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.

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E--Explore

Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you'll learn more about yourself.

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F--Forgive

Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.

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G--Grow

Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.

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H--Hope

Hope for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.

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I--Ignore

Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.

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J--Journey

Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you'll grow.

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K--Know

Know that no matter how bad things seem, they'll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.

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L--Love

Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there's room for endless happiness.

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M--Manage

Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to focus on the important things in life.

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N--Notice

Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.

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O--Open

Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there's still much to be thankful for.

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P--Play

Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.

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Q--Question

Ask many questions, because you're here to learn.

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R--Relax

Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.

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S--Share

Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.

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T--Try

Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish.

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U--Use

Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring unexpected rewards.

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V--Value

Value the friends and family members who've supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.

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W--Work

Work hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.

X--X-Ray

Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you'll see the goodness and beauty within.

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Y--Yield

Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.

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Z--Zoom

Zoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.

Value and Grow

The things you value, are what become valuable in your life. You give value, you create value by your attention, your efforts, your commitment.

Value your work and it becomes more valuable. Value your home and it becomes more valuable. Value your life, your family, your faith, your body, your mind -- and they all become more valuable. Value your ideas and they become more valuable. Value your time and it becomes more valuable. Value your money and it becomes more valuable.

Value is not determined by a price tag. The value of anything is the value you give it. What do you value? What do you want to grow and become abundant in your life? Give yourself to those things which you value and they will certainly flourish.

we know... but we forget

The most useless thing to do................ Worry

The greatest Joy.............................. Giving.

The greatest loss .......................... Loss of self-respect.

The most satisfying work ................... .Helping others.

The ugliest personality trait.................. Selfishness.

The most endangered species.............. Dedicated leaders.

The greatest "shot in the arm".............. Encouragement.

The greatest problem to overcome.......... Fear.

The most Effective sleeping pill............ Peace of mind.

The most crippling failure disease........ Excuses.

The most powerful force in life............. Love.

The most dangerous pariah.................. A Gossiper.

The world's most incredible computer..... The Brain.

The worst thing to be without............... Hope.

The deadliest weapon........................... The tongue.

The two most power-filled words.......... "I Can".

The greatest asset.................................. Faith.

The most worthless emotion................. Self-pity.

The most prized possession.................. Integrity.

The most beautiful attire........................ A Smile.

The most powerful channel of communication...... Prayer.

The most contagious spirit................... Enthusiasm.

The most important thing in the life....... God.

Either- Or

Don't get trapped by dualistic thinking. Just because A is true, does not make B false. Often, A and B can both be true.

The things you must do, can also be the things you want to do. What you give, can also be what you receive. What you teach, can also be what you learn. Your task can be difficult, and at the same time enjoyable. What is good for the customer, can also be good for the vendor.

Many times we make the mistake of defining things by what they are not. In so doing, we limit our thinking and our possibilities. In reality, there are very few opposites. Is teaching really the opposite of learning? Is female really the opposite of male? Is love really the opposite of hate? Is play really the opposite of work? Of course not. Many of the things we consider opposites, are in fact very similar. Our desire to classify and categorize, while often quite useful, can also be limiting.

Possibilities arise not from the destruction of other possibilities, but rather from the opening of the mind.

Fail Forward

Failure is not the opposite of success. Failure is an important component of success.

Suppose you set an objective, take action, and then fail to reach that objective on the first attempt. Even though you have experienced a failure, you're in much better shape than you were before you started.

Because you've just learned, in a compelling and meaningful way, what doesn't work. And that puts you well on the way to finding what does work.

The greatest achievements of all time are built upon multiple failures. The greatest achievers are those who are willing to experience failure on their way to the success they know will most certainly come.

No one sets out with the intention of failing. Yet when failure comes, it is nothing to be ashamed of, and no reason to give up.

Learn to see failure as just another step in the process of success. And even when the failures come, they will serve to move you forward.

Learn Life!

The way to know is to do. You cannot know fully how something is to be done until you actually get started on it.

So go ahead and get started. From where you are, in this moment, take one first step forward, and once that step has been taken, look for another you can take.

What if you're not doing it the right way? You'll know soon enough that some changes are needed.

And you will not only have the opportunity to adjust your approach. You'll also have a better idea of what those adjustments should be.

Certainly you can seek the advice of others, and work to prepare yourself as best you know how. Yet to truly make progress, you must eventually make the leap of faith that consists of stepping forward and taking action.

Though you can learn much from studying the experience of others, the techniques that will work best for you are the ones you develop as you go along. Learn by doing, and in the doing you will achieve great things.

Making Mistakes

Mistakes are valuable reminders that you do not know it all. And as such, they provide golden opportunities to learn.

Mistakes are a sure sign that you're making progress. For when you make mistakes, it means you are putting forth effort and having an influence.

Mistakes are certainly no cause for shame. The greatest achievements require you to work your way through the greatest errors and misunderstandings.

Mistakes are not to be feared. For the same actions that enable you to make a mistake also put you in a position to correct it.

When you're willing to accept the possibility of mistakes, you're able to follow the best opportunities. When you become experienced at handling mistakes, you'll be skilled at creating real value.

Success comes not from avoiding all mistakes, but from learning to find a positive way forward no matter what may happen. With each mistake, get over it, get wisdom from it, and become even more effective than you were before.